Bedtime routines are a consistent, repetitive set of activities that are carried out before bed every night. They help prepare your child for sleep by having them relax and wind down. A predictable routine also gives your child a sense of security and teaches them how to fall asleep on their own.
How To Build a Bedtime Routine for Kids
A bedtime routine for kids usually consists of set of activities done in the same order help them wind down their bodies an begin to cognitively recognize that "sleep time" is here.
Typical bedtime activities sleep include:
- Quiet play activities (coloring, playdoh, storytelling)
- Nutritious snack or bottle/breastfeeding
- Bath or diaper change
- Brushing teeth and going to the bathroom
- Reading a book
- Lullaby or singing a song together
- Massage, cuddling, and rocking
- Talking about their day
- Goodnight kiss and lights out
Be open to adapting the routine if what you are currently doing is not working!!
Here are some additional suggestions that may support you and the child with learning to get on a sleep routine:
1. Set an alarm- use an auditory cue to signal it is time to begin the routine.
2. Fill the belly- if your child is not a particularly good eater or if they just did not eat well for dinner, work in a snack.
3. Transition object - if the child needs a little something to hold or suck to support calming, then provide it. As the child gets older, they need to become more responsible for gathering the things they need to get to sleep. These may include a favorite blanket, a pacifier or sippy cup.
4. Use a visual schedule- A schedule of the order of events in the bedtime routine may be beneficial to keep everyone on task.
5. Take a warm (very warm) bath: Warming the body is a great way to help the body calm. Add Epsom salt or a couple drops of essential oils to the bath to support calming. Most importantly, don't rush the bath - especially if this is one of the child's favorite things!! Let them play in the tub and get in a good soak.
6. Use music as a transition: Most parents don't realize this, but at daycares children are trained to "get in their nap spot" when the lights are turned off and music goes on. The use of this is similar to classical conditioning whereby the onset of music (neutral stimulus) causes sleep (naturally occurring reflex). Keep in mind that we all have music preferences and not all kids will respond to the same music in the same way.
7. Yoga & Breathing Exercises: Older children may really enjoy the stretching and slow sustained movements that yoga offers. Deep breathing supports a vagus response that induces a calm, self-regulated state. See link below for polyvagal theory.
7. Be attuned to sensory needs: If the child has sensory processing differences, you may need to incorporate this into the nighttime routine. Some of these may include:
- Deep pressure input
- Movement that is slow, consistent, and linear
- Touch and closeness
- Total darkness
- Fascinations (favorite characters/objects in hand or nearby)